Crafting a cure for loneliness

Some adults find making friends to be a bit easier when everyone has something to keep their hands busy.

Jenny Baquing, 38, is the creator of Jenny and Cabbage, a series of free, all-ages craft nights around California’s Bay Area that have become an unlikely social hotspot.

The events, which feature everything from rock painting to purse-charm making, regularly attract 100+ people looking to get creative and connect with others.

Let’s rewind: Jenny, who describes herself as neurodivergent, started the gatherings last year after moving back to the Bay Area and struggling to expand her social circle.

• Her first event, a rock-painting night, attracted 75 people.
• Since then, Jenny and Cabbage has expanded to at least two events/month at rotating venues, with popular activities drawing 250+ attendees.

“It can feel really vulnerable and scary and sad to say, ‘I want more friends, but I don’t know how to make them,’” she said. “When you are willing to come into a space like this, your bravery is really rewarded with friendship and community.”

Her secret sauce is simplicity. There’s no cover charge or RSVP, supplies are provided, and zero artistic talent is necessary. Having an activity also gives attendees a built-in conversation starter, removing some of the awkwardness that can come with walking into a room full of strangers.

• Some regulars say the events have helped them build friendships after moving to the Bay Area, working remotely, or otherwise struggling to meet new people. 
• Others have become volunteers, helping Jenny keep the growing gatherings running.

Jenny is just grateful to have a space to express herself and meet new people. All she needed was some markers, beads, and a sheet of stickers.